1. How Couples Therapy Can Benefit Every Relationship

    “When I first met my girlfriend, it truly felt like love at first sight. Everything about her was perfect—from the way she laughed to the way she ever so slightly stuck out her tongue when she was focusing, I was head over heels. We’ve been together for four years, now, and while I am still deeply in love with her, our relationship is wildly different than it was in the beginning. We rarely …Read More

  2. How Marital Conflict Affects Your Loved Ones

    “When I was little, I really only remember my parents fighting. Of course there are the rare, glimmering memories of happy times—trips to Disneyland, holidays with extended family, and birthdays. When we were out in public, people thought we were the perfect family. My brother and I were scholar-athletes, both well-rounded and involved in the community. My parents were esteemed teachers, also …Read More

  3. Mini-Vacation

    My husband and I have created a tradition of taking a long weekend to the beach twice a year. We have certain criteria for a short break – less than a 3 hours driving distance to avoid use of the airport, restaurants and activities within walking distance of the hotel, post- or pre- season, and within a budget including a dog sitter. As a result, a tradition has been born. This year I was somewh…Read More

  4. Why I Want to See You Weekly

    "I'm feeling much better and I want to see what happens if I see you in 2 weeks. Do you think that's alright?" "I can't afford to come weekly. Do you think twice a month or once every 3 weeks will be OK?" These are complex questions. What is really being asked? How is treatment or the therapeutic relationship being perceived? A good therapist would be open to exploring rather than answering the cl…Read More

  5. How Counseling Can Help Save Your Marriage

    Marriage has its inevitable ups and downs, as you and your partner are experiencing the trials and tribulations together. By taking the vow of marriage, you are heading onto the roller coaster of life with a partner, and things can get shaky. If you are finding that you and your partner are having a hard time with marriage, as you continually fight and are beginning to distance yourselves from eac…Read More

  6. Resolve

    Did you make a New Year's resolution? A fresh start. Goals. New year of reflections, past and future. I couldn't wait for 2016 to finish. In hindsight, I can't recall a time when I longed for a particular year to remain. Last year, I hired a marketing company to boost my cyber presence and business. Started a blog. Considered firing my supervision group and leaving my church, maybe even converting…Read More

  7. Being Unreasonable

    Fee arrangements for services have different significance for others. Since opening my private practice, I have heard various responses about my fee-for-service from "good for you" to "I'd never pay" to "Sounds great but I couldn't afford it." Interestingly, as much as I even received flat out insults from my own family ("I'd never pay for weekly therapy"), I didn't waiver to accept insurance or c…Read More

  8. Family Business

    "Your family seems rather normal," claims my therapist with a smile after my litany of complaints and reasons the holiday season sucks. I chuckled because she named my unspoken fantasy of the Norman Rockwell image of holiday celebration and gatherings.   The warmth of his paintings captures a comfort and peacefulness of generations around feasts with decorations donning the walls and fire mantle…Read More

  9. Managing Emotions During The Holidays

    The holidays are always advertised as the happiest time of the year, but this isn’t the case for everyone. The amount of activities, celebrations and overall energy of this time of the year is something that can bring up a lot of raw emotions, both good and bad, that can overwhelm an individual. At the office of Wendy Iglehart, we help quite a few people through the difficult times that they fac…Read More

  10. Is Avoiding Anger Helpful?

    The image of anger is portrayed as a snarly, fanged monster, once released -- the rage and fury will devour and destroy.  But when anger is not addressed it could become turned inward.  Thus, the dichotomy arises between outward destruction or internal turmoil. Coming into the holiday season, I sense my mood lowering into a melancholy state.  I find it difficult to cope with family dynamics and…Read More