1. How Counseling Can Help Save Your Marriage

    Marriage has its inevitable ups and downs, as you and your partner are experiencing the trials and tribulations together. By taking the vow of marriage, you are heading onto the roller coaster of life with a partner, and things can get shaky. If you are finding that you and your partner are having a hard time with marriage, as you continually fight and are beginning to distance yourselves from eac…Read More

  2. Resolve

    Did you make a New Year's resolution? A fresh start. Goals. New year of reflections, past and future. I couldn't wait for 2016 to finish. In hindsight, I can't recall a time when I longed for a particular year to remain. Last year, I hired a marketing company to boost my cyber presence and business. Started a blog. Considered firing my supervision group and leaving my church, maybe even converting…Read More

  3. Being Unreasonable

    Fee arrangements for services have different significance for others. Since opening my private practice, I have heard various responses about my fee-for-service from "good for you" to "I'd never pay" to "Sounds great but I couldn't afford it." Interestingly, as much as I even received flat out insults from my own family ("I'd never pay for weekly therapy"), I didn't waiver to accept insurance or c…Read More

  4. Family Business

    "Your family seems rather normal," claims my therapist with a smile after my litany of complaints and reasons the holiday season sucks. I chuckled because she named my unspoken fantasy of the Norman Rockwell image of holiday celebration and gatherings.   The warmth of his paintings captures a comfort and peacefulness of generations around feasts with decorations donning the walls and fire mantle…Read More

  5. I’m Gonna Disappoint You and Be OK with It

    "Is there a way you can make the call while on vacation next week?"  asks my colleague,  "I'll miss your laughter and contribution to group." Immediately, I sense being attacked and ready to defend.  I wanted to protect myself from feeling mortified and ashamed.  Plus, I believed I needed to protect my colleague from my decision to enjoy my time on vacation instead of satisfying her with my pr…Read More

  6. 3 Reasons To Give Therapy A Try

    There is a social stigma that counseling is for individuals who are broken, bruised, crazy or incapable of dealing with their issues. I’ve heard it for years that these are the people that need real help. The truth is, I have yet to meet a person who came to counseling and didn’t feel like they left with more than they came in with. Whether it is for something that you’re currently strugglin…Read More

  7. Bow — “less”

    Currently, I experience a resistance to join the blog community without a neat bow to provide a thoughtful message.  Many times a patient has attended a session believing there wasn't much to say or even offer to me.  Frankly, I empathize with this notion.  Then a thought occurred to me -- I would still prepare a delicious meal to enjoy by myself.  Why would I deprive myself the pleasure of jo…Read More

  8. Laughter Is the Best Thing Since Sliced Bread

    Face muscle soreness, shortness of breath, redden face, tears streaming out of the eyes, mucus running out of the nose, coughing, bladder threatening to release urine, and stomach muscle achiness.  Does this sound like fun to you?  When the traits of laughter are presented, it appears rather odd that I love to laugh.  Maybe the joy of laughter is generational. My grandmother would be scolded by…Read More

  9. The Deception of 6 Easy Steps

    The outdated, frayed loveseat appeared sadly out of place next to the new modern sofa set.  Rather than discard the old piece of furniture, I thought a slip cover would give a fresh facelift and still provide comfort for the dog to catch a snooze.  I read on-line reviews ranging from satisfaction to being a "pain in the ass" and I also watched a video for fit tips about slipcovers.  Eventually …Read More

  10. Wedding Gown and SUV

    I tossed and turned all night.  Nerves and excitement radiated through my body.  Would I find the right gown?  Will I have the teary experience as seen on TV when the bride just "knows" this is the ONE?  Since elementary school, I fantasized about wearing a long, dreamy wedding gown.  The bridal consultant greeted my mom, my maid-of-honor and me at the front store door.  The consultant asked…Read More